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Quarantine, education, children
10-04-2020

When it's important to stay home to save the planet, this is a great chance to learn more about your family. 
Gary Chapman, the author of "The Five Love Languages", recommends exploring how relatives and friends, and especially children, evaluate what they love. After all, the confidence that parents love children, and not only criticize and force them to do their homework, gives them confidence. 
Therefore, some people believe that the expression of love is a help, for others it is praise and courtesy, some are convinced that it is gifts, others are convinced that this means hugs and holding hands, and a fifth group believe that love is attention.
And so, praise, attention, gifts, help and hugs – which of these options is closest to your own children? It is easy to find out. To show your love to your children as much as possible. And then they will do the lessons with great enthusiasm.
If the readers of the Prospekt shopping mall page are interested in this technique, then below is a test. Thanks to this method, hundreds of thousands of people have found a common language and improve family relations. 
Practical tips and life hacks are useful information that Prospekt shopping mall always shares with its visitors. 

Test "The Five Love Languages"

Words of encouragement, undivided attention, gifts, help, physical contact. Which of these languages is your main language? Some of you already know the answer to this question, and some of you don't. "The Five Love Languages" questionnaire will help you figure this out. The questionnaire consists of 30 items, each item has two statements, from which you need to choose one. Mark the character corresponding to your answer. Sometimes you will want to mark two responses, but you should not do this to make the results more accurate. In the questionnaire, there are such expressions as "someone who is dear to me" or "close". When we think of love and the language of love, we immediately associate it with a romantic relationship. However, we do not feel love and attachment only in the context of falling in love. When filling out the questionnaire, think about people close to you: a boyfriend or girlfriend, friends, parents, colleagues, and so on.
Fill out the questionnaire in a calm environment, when you are not pressed for time. Then count the number of corresponding marked characters. Write down the results at the end of the questionnaire. Read the "Interpretation of test results".

Which is my main love language?

1.
I like to hear words of encouragement. А
I like being hugged. E

2.
I like to spend time privately with people I care about. В
I feel loved when I get practical help. D

3.
I like to receive gifts. С
I like lasting talking to my friends and family. В

4.
I feel loved when someone helps me. D
I feel loved when someone touches me gently. E

5.
I feel loved when the person who loves me or likes me hugs me. E
I feel loved when the person who loves me or likes me gives me a gift. С

6.
I like to go out with friends and family. В
I like to high-five or hold the hand of someone I care about. E

7.
Visible love symbols (gifts) are very important to me. С
I feel loved when others encourage me with appropriate words. А

8.
I like being around people I enjoy spending time with. E
I like it when someone says I'm cute / handsome. А

9.
I enjoy spending time with my friends and family. В
I like to accept gifts from friends and family. С

10.
Words of acceptance are very important to me. А
If someone helps me, then they love me. D

11.
I like being around my friends and family. В
I like to hear kind words addressed to me. А

12.
I am more convinced by a person's actions than by their words. D
Hugs help me feel valued and loved. E

13.
I like praise, and on the contrary, I avoid criticism. А
I prefer a lot of small gifts instead of one big one. С

14.
I feel a special closeness with people when we talk or do something together. В
I feel a great closeness with my friends and family when they often put their arms around my shoulders. E

15.
I like it when others praise me for my success. А
When a person does something for me that they don't like, it means that they love me. D

16.
I like it when friends or family pat my shoulder as they pass by. D
I like it when people listen to me carefully and show genuine interest in my words. С

17.
I feel loved when friends or family help me in my work or in the implementation of some plans. D
I really like to receive gifts from friends and family. С

18.
I like it when someone compliments me on my appearance. А
I feel loved when someone tries to understand my feelings. В

19.
I feel confident when my loved ones touch me. E
I feel loved when someone helps me. D

20.
I appreciate when my dear people do a lot for me. D
I like to accept gifts from people I care about. С

21.
I like it when someone gives me undivided attention. В
I like it when someone helps me. D

22.
I feel loved when I get gifts for my birthday. С
I feel loved when people say warm words to me on my birthday. А

23.
If someone gives me a gift, it means they are thinking about me. С
I feel loved when someone helps me. D

24.
I appreciate someone listening carefully and not interrupting me. В
I appreciate when someone gives me gifts for different holidays. С

25.
I am happy when my loved ones take care of me, taking on part of my daily responsibilities. D
I like to travel with people I care about. В

26.
I love to kiss those who are close to me and accept their kisses. E
I love it when someone gives me gifts for no reason. С

27.
I like to be told that I am appreciated. А
I like it when my partner in conversation looks me in the eye. В

28.
Gifts from a friend or loved one are always dear to me. С
I like it when a friend or loved one touches me. E

29.
I feel loved when someone fulfills my request with pleasure. D
I feel loved when someone tells me how much they care about me. А

30.
I need a friendly touch every day. E
I need words of encouragement every day. А

RESULTS:
A - words of encouragement
B - undivided attention (quality time)
C - gifts
D - help
E - physical contact

Interpretation of the test results

Which of the love languages scored the most points? This is your main language of love. If two languages scored the same number of points, it means that you are "bilingual", that is, you have two main languages. If the number of points in two languages is almost the same, then one of them is almost as important as the other. One language can score a maximum of 12 points.
Although you score higher with certain languages, try not to neglect others. If friends and loved ones will communicate with you on them, then, at least, it will reveal them from a certain side. Your friends would do well to communicate with you in a language that speaks eloquently to you about love. Play this game. Every time someone speaks to you in your language, give them a score for the positive emotions you have received (you don't have to write them down).
This will bring the feeling that "you are understood and taken care of". Later, this feeling will increase many times and grow into a strong attachment.
If communicating with people in their native language strengthens relationships, then neglecting it creates the opposite effect. Your friends or family may have the impression that you don't like them. By expressing love in a way that is not perceived positively by others, you are wasting your energy. As a result, you and the person for whom you tried so hard will be disappointed. You may have previously unconsciously spoken to your loved ones in a "foreign" language. Having learned the languages of love, you can now really communicate your feelings to others, knowing that they will be correctly perceived.
If something doesn't work out, ask your close friends to fill out the "The Five Love Languages" questionnaire. Discuss the test results and use the results to strengthen your relationship.