Love is eternal, and it leaves its own, unique trace in each human's life. Is love able to change the life and how? We've asked Prospekt shopping mall's guests about it.
«As for me, I have long dreamed of talking about love with the shopping mall's guests - what do they think, feel, whether the feelings really change a person. So, we've talked to men and women, dads and moms, pupils and students, various professions representatives ... Everyone, who have answered to our very simple questions, believe that this warm, bright true feeling is inspiring, changing people for the better, encouraging and motivating to conquer new heights», - said Olena Obukhivska, the PR manager of Prospekt shopping mall.
Anton, personal business
Of course, love changes human's life. When you feel love for yourself, you become grateful for the fate that gave you such a feeling.
I am married for the second time, there is something to compare. When I was first married, I thought that this is love, however, I was wrong. And in the second marriage, I realized that this is love, and I enjoy life. We have already been together for 6 years and we have two children. My senior child Pavlo is here with me now, he'll be three years old on March 2, and my little, 9 months old, daughter is at home.
If love has caused pain, then you have to go and live through it, but then you would better understand the nature of the feelings and you'll be able to distinguish where the real love is and where is the fake one, what is love.
Pupils Vitalii, Volodymyr and Radyslav
Vitalii is sure that love changes people, and Volodymyr with Radyslav assume that it is possible. It changes to the positive side, the guys say. And if it went sour, then this is the end of the story. It’s time to open a new page.
Nastya and Roma, student and pupil
- You become more serious and prudent, more responsible to deal with many things in life, love adds decisiveness, - says Roma.
- We are together for almost three years. We had many quarrels in the past, had differences of opinions, but tried to find a common denominator and come to it, - says Nastya.
- Well, someone tried, and someone ... - adds Roma.
- Love has also affected relations with our relatives, you start better understanding what kind of love you get from them every day, and you want to return thanks, - says Nastya. - Love very changes each of us very much, that's for sure.
Marharyta, Lawyer
- Love can change our life dramatically and for the better - inspire, give a desire to act, conquer new heights. Even if something did not happen, I think it's better to have love than to live calmly, but without it. As it is emotions and fullness of life.
Kristina, student
I believe love changes life for the better. For example, my dad was a biker, and my mother made him a family man and a good father. They've already been together for 17 years, I have a younger brother. Everything is Ok.
Larysa, Architect
- Love is a comprehensive feeling. It inspires. Energy appears. As a child, I've seen one loving couple with a great relationships experience, and still I can't forget how they were caring about each other. A man, though he had a respectable position, was preparing breakfast every weekend to give his wife a break, because she also worked all week through. It sank into my heart. Not everyone can find such love. And everybody has their time to meet a real love. And, perhaps, someone doesn’t have it at all.
Olena, Masha, Dasha, Inna, Yana and Anton, school No. 147
- Love can change human's life. And love can be different - to relatives, friends, pets and even to food.
- If a person is alone and he has no one for having a walk with, he can get a pet, who will become his real friend. It will change the person himself; he will become more kind, more attentive to someone else's pain, to the mood of the surrounding people.
- Friends also make life better, friends are always supporting you. We all study together at one school. If you need help with homework, you can always ask them, and they'll explain and support. When you are sad, there's always someone to talk to, and the grief disappears.
- You can't be bored with friends. It is most valuable in life. They will always support, even if you don't have a second half. And it doesn't matter who is your friend - a boy or a girl.
Dasha and Volodymyr, students
- Love is primarily changing people internally, and it is always for the better. Inevitable love? If this isn't mutual, then it's probably not love at all, it's amorousness. Love is when two are involved, when it is mutual.
Daryna, Karina, school No. 284, Jabrail, High School of NAU
- It seems to me that the person's behavior changes and his attitude towards the world changes too. He becomes softer. And if the love is also mutual, the person starts looking at the world at a completely different way.
- Even when I got a pet, a dog, I became softer and kinder to all. You start better understanding the other. When you begin to take care of the being precious to you, you understand how hard this work is, you become more adult, responsible. You better imagine how much love and attention your parents give you each day.
- If love isn't mutual, then perhaps a person dies. Internally. Sometimes it becomes more aggressive; he feels pain because he was denied.
- Of course, it is better when the love is mutual, there is someone to take care of, and for whom you can make coffee in the morning. But nevertheless, love makes the world kinder.
Yuliia, a Lawyer
«Love enriches. Even if the relationships are over, the experience is being left, you're trying not to repeat and correct the mistakes. You shouldn't lose trust and dispose negatively to the world, men. Every person is an individual, it can't be measured by the standards from its past».
Tetiana, Manager
«The love has changed me only in the best way. When you love and you're loved, the wings grow, the attitude to the world becomes positive. And there also is a love for children; this is the most important thing. I have a daughter, and this feeling can't be described. This is a completely different love, this is a Universe! However, it doesn't matter from whom you're feeling the love - from parents, beloved, friends, - the main thing is that it was in your life».
Alona, Yuliia, both are young mothers
- There are a lot of examples of how love can change a person. For example, my sister quit smoking due to her beloved, and she couldn't do this for a long time before. And she did it easily, it was not too hard for her, because she was happy in her relationships at the same time. And she's happy now.
- Generally, love can change everything - from habits to attitude and behavior.
Olena, Marketing Expert, Nataliia, Designer
N: «It may change, but slightly. And not necessarily in the best way. But, of course, love is a stimulus to certain actions».
О: «Love is in giving. Definitely. What do you want to receive in response? Most likely, attention. Probably so. As for me, you give in love and you want to get the energy as an answer.
Does love change? Do you become different? Everything can be. A person can be changed in time».
N: «I would like to know that I can rely on someone, who will lend his shoulder to me. Does love change in years, when we are together? Probably it is changing in the first year, and then no».
О: «Can love disappear, and then return? It seems to me that if love has disappeared, it is unlikely to return. The question is whether it has disappeared».
N: «And I tried. No. It hasn't disappeared. We were together for seven years, then we were breaking up, now again together.
Can love survive the offence? If you are able to survive what has happened then can. You love not for something. If you were offended, maybe you will survive, and maybe not».
О: «Depending on how the person will behave then, will crumble or not. If he doesn't feel that he has offended you, if he constantly repeats this, then this is already nonsense and that's it. And if you understand something, stop behaving like that, then its okay, then you can think about something.
The child birth does not change the world globally, but you cease to be focused on yourself, you realize that now you have one more person to care about, this is a duty. You understand that a baby can't exist without you. Especially in its first years, and so on».
N: «My husband and I recently realized that we are old: we met in an ICQ. I had a web-page on Bigmir with a photo, and he wrote something very pleasant there, comprehensively. Not as people usually write «Hi, you're cool!», when you don't want to answer, his letter was long and beautiful. He wrote how he liked the photo, and then about himself. He offered to become friends. We've chatted a bit, and then we met - and started dating. I was 15 years old, and he was two years older. Then we got married».
О: «Well, I'm older, once I got acquainted on the forum. And now my almost grown up daughter wants to register me in Tinder, where the faces are being flipped and, if you like someone, you get acquainted with him. And we just shared the thoughts on the forum - without a photo, without any data. It was a place of communication for Kyiv residents. We've met there and were dating for a very long time. My daughter and her boyfriend also communicated online first».
N: «Besides, my mother also got acquainted with her second husband online, they have been together for 10 years. A bunch of my friends also got acquainted with their beloved people - in social networks and applications. They got acquainted in Top-face - and a year after they had a wedding and a child».
О: «Do you think people meet each other in the subway or cinema? No».
N: «Now it's not accepted to approach and get acquainted. The majority of people go online. However, the speed dating has still being flourishing. People even don't spend money on it».
О: «It seems to me that men began to beware of the women reaction to such attempts to get acquainted. And generally, I don't know how to get acquainted. Every age has its own recipes. The older generation generally goes for dances».
N: «My grandmother was going to dances; she was so happy, upgraded, and joyful, met my grandfather there, an interesting man, as she told me».
О: «It's very important to get this feeling .. love. Necessity. Possibilities to give something. Get an attention.
I don't believe that quarreling is a path for good».
N: «Honestly, I'm ready to live by myself, in order to not quarrel with anyone».
О: «It seems to me, when people are quarrelling, they simply want to change each other, to adapt another person».
N: «It is useless to demand from another person what he can't or doesn't want to do, and can't give this to you.
There is one more thing: if a person is accustomed to give up on him, then suddenly realized that he still needs to love, his life will change for the better. It'll change very much. Even more than when just meeting someone and falling in love.
Have I ever seen stable and happy relationships? No, I've just heard about that».
О: «I have a model, a couple already having three children, and they are still glad to each other. When a man shines and a woman is blooming - it's probably a happy relationship ...»