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23-03-2020

How to manage your thoughts and conduct a dialogue with partners
During a live online broadcast with a practical psychologist Volodymyr Naumenko, we received a question – how do objective difficulties and economic crises affect family relations? And what methods or recommendations are there to deal with the negative impact 
The psychologist's answer: people are vulnerable to negative information. There are many causes, diseases, situations that are toxic and dangerous. But until now, we didn't wear masks, we weren't afraid to visit cinemas. And today we received certain information and immediately began to be afraid. So we are vulnerable because of our ignorance. But when one knows or studies something, it becomes aware. Relationships are an art. 
It is not enough to read a popular book: "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus". And the advice "think like a man, act like a woman" is also not always relevant. In relationships, the most often are the example and scenario that our parents showed us. So, in order to avoid this transfer and use of a ready-made scenario, so that the global crisis does not affect the relationship, it is important to set a clear task for yourself: what do I know about relationships in the family and what I do not know. What do I need to achieve success in, how can I change myself so that my partner is comfortable. Absolutely straight, you can ask questions - " what do you like about me?", "why did you choose me?", "what do you want to change in me?»
There should be a dialogue. And even if there is a situation when one of the partners is tired and exhausted, it is more correct to simply say: "let's have less discussion today. I have something uneasy in my heart, I need to reboot." "let's not talk about plans or experiences, but about something pleasant or ordinary." In any case, do not make claims, pain, aggression, and talk calmly. Then it is easier to achieve reciprocity.
Often, where there is no problem, we are able to come up with it by ourselves. We even start building a whole house out of problems. 
Charged with negativity, people immediately see something wrong in their partners. Therefore, it is important to warn your loved ones about your mood. And again - it is important to conduct a dialogue.